Living Alone

At the age of 27, I am living my life independently. I have my own place to stay and also I am a hard worker which means I support myself from everything such as food. I am also able carry out monthly budgeting tasks, prepare breakfast and dinner meals, prioritize the needs from the wants, and do minor laundry stuff, among other things. I've learned doing things on my own or should I say, I had to learn doing things alone since I moved in to Joe Slovo in Langa last year.  

I came to Cancer Association of South Africa during my third year to do my internship and that internship helped me because I have gained more knowledge and experience at CANSA, meeting with different schools around Cape Metro Region. I can now stand in front of 1000 people, do a presentation on healthy lifestyle and cancer and I can also work under pressure, meet my deadlines at the working environment. It was great honour working with Alicia, Liezne, Michael and Raffeq and these people were always with me in every step of the way.

 My mother did not stop me, either. Mother maintained that I as the youngest must stay and not go elsewhere because she felt that I am still young to be live on my own. I rolled my eyes and ask her if how I could be too young when I was already done with my matric. She told me that at the age of 26 years, life is pretty much yours to lead. Surely, I was old enough to manage myself. And so, I made my case, once and for all. I told myself, if I'd stay there would be grown up and do things on my own to build a better future.

What is the sound of one hand clapping?

The sound of one hand clapping is when you clap together both of you hands and then others will hear a sharp sound, the absent or invisible hand that claps because one hand cannot clap, there can only be two hands clapping. One hand cannot clap without the other because the sound cannot be heard meaning that one hand depends on other one to produce sound and one hand claps with the other.

The sound of one hand clapping cannot be heard. We do not have the physical capacity to hear the sound of one hand clapping. Therefore, we have to be aware of human limitation. When we acknowledge our human limitation, another thing is that we can also settle ourselves to the natural world, and can live in harmony with the universe.

[Cheating in a relationship]

It's really kind of discouraging to look at the world and realize just how many people are cheating on their loved ones, but it's true.  Cheating is a huge problem in the dating world today and this also happens in marriages as well.  It can seriously scar a loving relationship, and when it's the cause of a breakup getting over it can be very difficult. I can say that people who cheat are simply selfish people and they are only concerned about themselves and not other people.

Everybody knows that cheating is wrong, what I have noticed is that people don't think of possible HIV and they don't even care. What makes you to cheat because if you love your girl friend, Husband, wife and then what is the point of cheating. I want to know from you guys because people are dying out there.

My suggestion to those who catch their partner cheats on them; they should stay away from the person who’s doing cheating, you can just leave the house because when your partner finds that you are cheating on him, you will beg him to forgive you and It makes you feel stupid and confused, and it's no fun but if you find yourself with a married man or married woman, you have to expect this.  I’m warning you to stop cheating because if you allow it to get into your life obviously it will destroy your relationship and you will ended leaving alone. Cheating gets really ugly really fast.

Not all who wander are lost

In life there are people who do not think about what happens around them. I am just at that stage of wondering where I go from after I have finished my Btech, but I don’t have a problem with planning or predicting what I want to do next year and  I believe in following your heart and doing something I love.  Planning ahead is important because it gives you a road map ahead for the future.  

My plans for next year: I plan to take a break and work for government in media relations department as the Public Relations Officer but if I can’t find a job I am going to do volunteer work in one of the Non-Profit organizations around Cape Town, at the age of 30 I want to be in my own place. In 2014, I’m hoping to go back to Cape Peninsula University to study my Mtech part-time and work full-time. What motivate me is that my sister is doing Mtech and then she told me to do Mtech as well so I don’t have a problem with that. I’m also interested in Journalism, so my plans are different.

Not all who wander are lost

“When days are dark friends are few”

Hello stranger!

Have you ever noticed that when you are in trouble, most of your friends just run away from you and your problems? That is why you have to make sure that you choose right friends. This may be the most difficult thing to do and it may take a lot of your time, but it is worth it, I tell you. Now why do we have friends? It’s a broad question to answer I must admit it.

There are many answers to this question but, most of us get friends to satisfy or societal needs so said “Maslow” and most of us have friends to have a shoulder to cry on. Therefore, if you don’t have a friend or a group friends as some of us may prefer, it simply means that there is no shoulder to cry on. There is no one to share your views with, no one to love. Everyone may look at you as a stranger, as that guy who sits in the middle of the class during lectures.

Look in the mirror tonight and ask yourself, why you belong to the group you hang around with. What are you benefiting from them, and how much influence does the group have on your life? Most importantly, ask yourself will they be there when your days are dark?

How do you step from the top of a 100-foot pole?

Stepping off the 100 ft pole allows us to investigate the reality of our minds. We step directly into our feelings and emotions for instance, seeing rich people walking next to you can make you feel small and emotions are the most important parts of our bodies. We see that the emotions themselves are not the problem; it’s the attachment to the emotions, the way they take hold of us and the gaps between our emotions and what really is. Sometimes it creates chances for people to be more open to their friends or families; being willing to be open to the perceptions and perspectives of our friends or families.  

If you can look out there you can find that our lives are like being perched on the top of a 100 foot pole. Another thing is that each moment in our relationships, at work and in our lives, we don’t have a choice but we got a choice to do something or try to convince other people around us. All I can say is that remaining silent is a choice, it is still doing something. As the poem says, though you are making an effort, the challenge is to be fully alive, fully genuine. When we take this step, there is no gap between us and the world, no more sense of confusion, trying, effort “the entire world becomes your body.” Successful people are not always in the position because no one tells them when they want to do something.

We as people have imaginary 100-foot pole in which we have to decide when and for what purpose we would step from it, only when we build up the courage to step off our safety zones will we be able to see the results from taking a chance or risk.

Knowing your 'action' style could lead to success

You have to find ways in organizing your life, while slightly tedious and time consuming, is one of the most important things that should be done by people in order to be successful. Let me tell you something without organizing your life, things like your finances, seating goals for yourself, and timeframe your life is massed up. The path of minimum productivity does not lead you to success: In fact, quite the opposite: operating at minimum productivity may result in failure.

It took me a while to realize how much of an impact it might have in organizing all aspects of my life would have on my productivity and on my peace of mind. Now everyday I wake up and I check my diary, which displays my schedule for the day as well as my goals for the week. Before I go to bed I straighten my house and check my books and check in my diary for deadlines of my assignments and then  plan for the test that I will be writing in class. This way of living ensures that my mind is clear to be productive and the simple tasks of keeping myself organized get done almost effortlessly.

This is who i am

Yesterday Sheena gave us a task to create a blog that help you to be known by others. For those who don’t know me, I am inquisitive and my inquisitive nature is to ask questions but I always look for the right time to ask questions. I’m studying Public Relations Management because I want to be able to support my family one day and make it possible for my children to live a happy and fulfilling life.

I love Public Relations and one day I see myself working for government in Media Relations Department as manager. I love singing choral music. I am hardworking person with the ability to work independently but I don’t mind working with other people as a team, do a particular task or assignment because sharing ideas is a very powerful way of transferring knowledge from one peer to another.  

I can also make decisions on my own.  I am a very friendly person, but I can’t expect everyone to like me and I like to make jokes especial when I am free as the results when I was still in high school doing grade 12 I used to visit grade 8 classes and share jokes with them. I don’t like rude people because I am a peace maker. I believe in myself and I’m confident to stand in front of the crowed.